What Clients Say


Client Testimonials – Dr. Ken Newberger

Dr. Newberger has spent decades sitting with people in their hardest moments — conflicts that strain relationships, test patience, and often feel hopeless.  His skills were forged in two of the most difficult and emotionally charged contexts:  conflict in religious settings  and  conflict in marriages.

Remarkably, the comments below reflect the reality that even in entrenched conflicts, resolution is possible.  And if he can help people find their way through everything from boardroom battles to broken marriages, he can very likely help you too.

Some quotes are lightly edited for clarity and brevity.
Organizational &
Multi-Party Conflict
Marital
(Two-Party) Conflict

"I think you did a great job of moderating the discussions.  Clearly there was a lot of emotion in the room, and you let us deal with it without injecting yourself into the middle of it.  By guiding us the way you did, you let us get to where we needed to be without dragging us there.  Aside from being a very talented professional, you always showed us how much you cared about what we were going through.  You also clearly did your homework before you arrived.  You were well-prepared; that showed as you shared your detailed understanding of our situation."  Board Member

I want to thank you, Ken, for working with us these past weeks. This has been difficult and hard work but I am so grateful to have "stayed the course." I feel I have learned so much about myself, as well as how to better handle relationships with my co-workers and others. Thank you for your patience and understanding, and for using your professional skills to help us achieve a positive solution.  Staff Member

I am happy to recommend Dr. Ken Newberger. He provided a refreshingly creative approach to the nuts and bolts of conflict resolution. Dr. Newberger listens empathically, analyzes with precision and communicates with grace as he guides individuals and groups through the landmines of conflict. He was able to win the confidence and respect of numerous personalities quickly and navigated the difficult terrain of relational and organizational conflict with poise and perseverance. Though he is a specialist well equipped in his field, he was open to input and suggestions. He was able to bring his considerable gifts and expertise while integrating our experience and observations into workable solutions.  Sr. Pastor

What you accomplished with the cooperation of our pastor and board was simply as effective as the highest hopes of anyone involved.  Member

Before Dr. Newberger began to work with us, I was quickly losing hope that relations could be restored and conflict resolved. But the more he worked with us, not just instructing us in how to resolve conflict, but actually helping us to take specific steps and make needed changes, our hopes for a healthy church actually began to be realized. Dr. Newberger, I can't thank you enough for your work with us!  Board Member

Thanks for all you have done to help us navigate the waters of conflict and come out on the other side in peace.  Sr. Pastor

Thank you for gently leading us through a very difficult and potentially destructive conflict that threatened the life of our church. You gave us hope and encouragement that we could successfully navigate through very troubled waters and reach an acceptable outcome. Your quiet confidence, years of experience, and non-threatening manner all contributed to a reasoned and mostly peaceful solution. When a recurring interpersonal conflict exploded to a new level between two leaders, we all felt defeated and ill-equipped to even know where to begin on a path to reconciliation or peaceful separation. But you were able to counsel and guide all of us until all parties reached a common ground that diffused a highly emotional standoff. In addition to our many scheduled meetings (with each of the key participants), your willingness to be accessible by phone for counsel, listening or discussion communicated your commitment and personal interest in genuinely helping us... I could not give you a stronger endorsement for your services as a conflict resolution specialist.  Board Member

I feel that I learned much from Ken about the need to face up to problems before they ignite conflict. Starting with the first conversation I had with Ken, I was convinced that he was the right person to try and help us. During our attempt to resolve conflict, Ken never displayed any bias and was unafraid to tell us hard things we needed to hear. I grew to really respect Ken for that.  Board Member

Thank you for all your help. We are convinced that we would not be in nearly as good a shape that we are in now if it were not for your help.  Staff Member

I cannot express my appreciation adequately to you for the service you provided us. I know I speak for all on the board. You are a true professional in the mediation field.  Board Member

Through Ken's consultations, we developed healthy communication practices for a staff team, improved our ability to hear each other, increased our awareness of different personality types, and created a covenant that both inspired us and kept us accountable to each other. Ken's strengths as a group mediator include strong listening skills, good insight into underlying issues, and the ability to balance compassion with accountability.  Sr. Pastor

It was decided by the board to bring in Kenneth Newberger. His work with us helped to save our congregation from splitting. I whole-heartedly recommend him to you and your specific situation. I found him to be caring, helpful, considerate, and encouraging. It is a joy to recommend him to you if you find yourself in a rough situation as I did.  Sr. Pastor

I can testify to the fact that Ken is very good at what he does. He helped our church through a difficult conflict situation before I came here, and I have personally used his services to help me through a conflict with our Board.  Sr. Pastor

You were the perfect person and consultant to help us resolve the problem.  Member

I feel that you did a magnificent job.  Member

We were experiencing conflicts at every level within our church — among the staff, board, and congregation. We initially called in Ken because we wanted someone without a preconceived idea of what our issues were or how they should be resolved. Through his leading we were able to discuss openly and honestly the issues before us and explore ways to address them. The end result was a more unified board, a better line of communication with the congregation, a clearer understanding among staff and board of each other's roles and responsibilities, and the framework for managing issues and conflicts in the future.  Board Member

We just completed a 4-day reconciliation event with Dr. Kenneth Newberger. I was apprehensive going into the experience but soon felt we had made the right decision in hiring Dr. Newberger. After gathering a great deal of information, he came to us with a well thought out plan that is already bringing healing to our body. Dr. Newberger is a gifted individual with a great deal of wisdom. I would not hesitate in bringing him back. I hope we won't have to.  Sr. Pastor

I was skeptical until I saw the process work. I saw the two major antagonists apologize and hug one another. Where there was tension, there is now a spirit of love.  Member

We are doing great, better than ever. I am so grateful, and I hope to never step back into that dark place again. Thank you for helping us see each other, and realize what we had. Ken, you are awesome (and very patient).

My husband and I have been married for 19 years and, while we love each other deeply, we had fallen into communication habits we couldn't break on our own. Dr. Ken helped us interrupt our conflict loop and truly listen to one another, which got us unstuck. He never took sides but helped each of us see our own role in the conflict. Being solution-oriented, Dr. Ken didn't require us to spend years in therapy. Our marriage is now back on track and stronger than ever. I highly recommend him to anyone wanting to improve their marriage.

We continue to heal. We feel you helped us to clean out the wounds and deal with past hurts and present challenges. You made me confront things and answer hard questions that I avoided for years. Your coming alongside us was a Godsend. Thank you so much.

I want to thank you for everything you have done. I can't stress how vital your sessions have been. I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I appreciate the homework!! It really does help us. If we should need anything else I will be sure to call on you again. Thank you so much for helping us save our marriage!

Dr. Newberger, I am heartbroken! I tried to get in touch with you to find out that you moved out of Florida. My husband and I saw you in 2013. I would have loved to come back to see you if you were still down here! Thank you for the help that you gave us.

Our 29-year marriage was on the verge of a total breakdown. We turned to Dr. Newberger for help. He provided a thorough, thoughtful, and rigorous process. He taught us a whole series of new skills that allowed us to better understand each other's perspective, empathize, and communicate more effectively. Our marriage is stronger than ever! His fees were very reasonable, and the outcome was priceless. Dr. Newberger is a genuinely nice person. We wholeheartedly recommend his services.

Your seasoned, pragmatic, sophisticated approach is what is needed — and I fear that you will be hard to find. I appreciate you and I feel comfortable with you. Again, a rarity.

After being together for 3 years, the relationship seemed doomed. One might think that a couple in their 80s should not have trouble in their relationship, but we did. Now we look forward to many happy and adventurous years ahead of us. We owe it to Dr. Ken and we will be forever grateful.

Ken, I do not think words can express the impact of your wisdom.

I have been meaning to send you an email for quite some time. My wife and I are doing fantastic. I want to thank you for all your help. Without your guidance, I'm certain we would have had a very different outcome in our marriage.

Dr. Ken, you're a magician!

We live in a different state, so we were pleasantly surprised to see that he offered virtual counseling sessions. Although our sessions were virtual and paperwork handled via email, the entire process ran smoothly. We never felt like we were missing out on anything. We truly enjoyed the virtual sessions because they allowed us to be more relaxed in our own environment. Overall, the experience was very rewarding. We highly recommend him to any couple!

We ran into a bump in our fifty-year marriage and within two and a half sessions we were good to go for another fifty.

Our premarital counseling went better than expected. Dr. Newberger was thorough in getting to know us and our backgrounds. Through the use of various written materials we learned better communication skills. We came away with a thorough understanding of each other's past history and 'sore spots.' Dr. Newberger saved us years of difficulty.

Dr. Ken is very thorough and insightful! He provides insight and recommendations in a caring yet straightforward manner as well as very detailed action plans for improvement. He is always very punctual, welcoming, and his humor often lightens the mood when needed. We were immediately at ease upon meeting Dr. Ken. Dr. Ken is highly recommended!!!!

Things are going really well. Thank you so much for your help. You saved this family. You are very good at what you do, and I hope a lot of couples are going to see you.

Dr. Ken, I really appreciate how intuitive you were at understanding issues in my marriage.

Doc, I used your suggestion in one of our differences yesterday and it defused the situation immediately. Without using that it would have brewed for some time causing resentment before resolving. Thanks!

Every day is not perfect but every day is turning into a good day and the relationship with my husband gets better… Thank you Dr. Ken.

Dr. Newberger is very competent. He provides an objective third-party opinion that helps in bringing up issues from either partner in a way that is not finger-pointing or judgmental. He guides the couple to self-discovery, analysis of motivations, and strategies for resolution. He has a professional, pleasant, and humorous demeanor that aids in promoting openness and vulnerability.

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for your guidance!

Individual Coaching

When I recently found myself in the unexpected position of being terminated as an Associate Pastor, I was in shock. The way I was terminated, without the slightest warning, stood in stark contrast to my perception of how things were going. What should I do? How should I respond? Something was wrong here. I needed to separate the emotions and sift through the dynamics and nuances of what this all meant.

I was also aware that our reactions to life's difficulties define our character to a large degree. I stood at the threshold of a defining moment. I was determined to respond to this crisis in as Christ-like a manner as possible. Sharing with someone in our community seemed dangerous and potentially polarizing. I needed to hear an outside voice.

I was aware of Ken Newberger's knowledge and wisdom in such matters of conflict through his published articles and website, so I contacted him. Ken provided a platform in which my emotions could be processed in a way that both validated them yet positively directed them to principled responses. During a pivotal board presentation, the advice, preparation, forethought, strategic thinking, and counsel that Ken was most instrumental in providing every step of the way, culminated in a highly successful moment for truth and authenticity to prevail.

By far, the very best decision I made in this whole process was connecting with Ken at the beginning of the conflict. Both my wife and I share the heartfelt sentiment that his guidance and wisdom throughout this ordeal has been crucial in moving all parties toward a God-honoring resolution.

Associate Pastor — in Your Church Magazine, 2006 Desk Reference Edition